*There's a long post here about how love is arbitrary and therefore our decisions are arbitrary and can never be right or wrong, and about the underlying fear of losing Selfness inside a relationship. It's a long post but I haven't written it yet.*
My birthday was last week.
I spent time driving/riding to visit dear friends around the country, I volunteered at a dog shelter, I made myself a birthday cake, I went out to a restaurant with my family. I also bought myself a birthday present and wrote myself a dedication in it.